Know Your Place

There is one thing that will turn me off from a man faster than anything else: disrespecting my husband. You are not even going to be graced with my eye contact if you step out of line. I know this is not exactly standard within the chastity/cuckold communities, but he’s not a beta. He is the alpha and the omega. The beginning and the end. You get to touch me with his blessing. So know your place.

I was messaging a guy from tinder and explained I was married. He said, “thats fine, you can finally see what a big dick feels like.”

Lol. Bold. And poorly calculated. I respond, “Oh! Well I don’t appreciate the disrespect so no thank you.”

He was genuinely confused by this response. “I thought that was part of the kink?”

“No. We just see other people. It’s not a kink thing.” Which like… is true. And not true at the same time. The kink aspect comes much later with people we’re much more comfortable with. I don’t tell guys out of the gate my husband’s dick is locked away in a cage.

He apologized and I found the interaction funny so I let it go, although he blew it almost immediately after for a completely separate reason.

Another instance is that I was at a club recently and drunk enough I wanted to flirt with a man I had no intention of sleeping with. But I wanted him to think he had a shot. Maybe I’m a bit of a dick but it’s not like I was letting him buy me drinks or anything. Just wanted to feel pretty so I wanted a guy fawning over me.

Early into the conversation he asks if I’m single and I say no, I’m married. He throws his hands up to playfully show his disappointment. I say, “but we’re open though.”

“I don’t think a guy can really love a woman and do that.”

“Why’s that?”

“Guys just can’t. It’s different for girls. I don’t think you can really love a woman and let her do that though.”

So not only did you tell me my husband doesn’t love me, you also clarified that you believe in patriarchal double standards. Cool. I’m out.

Seeing all the posts in the chastity and cuck subs talking about how their husband is too small or can’t fuck then well enough… you’ll never see me post that. He’s not small. He fucks me well. I can’t really imagine talking about him like that, even just pretending for marketing purposes.

To be honest, this doesn’t end in the dating/sex world. This shit is real life. You're not going to talk to me any type of way... and you're certainly not going to talk to him any type of way either. We once had a contractor do a shit job at our house. Dakota complained, obviously trying to remedy the situation by either having them fix the problem or reduce the price of the work. The contractor laid into him, insulting him, our house, etc.

Now Dakota tends to be pretty non-confrontational. I, however, am not. I told him to stop responding to the guy with anything besides, "you'll have to speak with my wife." I had the checkbook and oh baby I had the time. Let's go.

When it was clear having some decorum was the only way this guy was going to get any money, he changed his tune. I told him he wasn't getting shit until he apologized to Dakota for how he spoke to him. Like a dog with its tail between its legs, the guy pathetically recanted all of his previous statements and apologized for his behavior. That's right, bitch.

While this is normally the direction these interactions go, I know that Dakota doesn't play about me either. Like I said, he's normally pretty non-confrontational, but when it's time to go he's ready. A time that stands out to me was a drunk guy at a bar trying to make conversation with me. Dakota only caught the tail end of the sentence though (and saw my displeased expression) and thought the guy insulted me. He immediately stepped between us and asked, "do we have a problem?"

Oh? Let's be clear, Dakota is the person I'd least expect to get into a fight so this caught me off-guard but also... I was surprisingly into it. I assured him that was unnecessary and the guy scurried off into the crowd never to be seen again.

At the end of the day I'd catch a charge for him and he for me. We got bail money, I'm not worried. As much as he pisses me off sometimes, that's my teammate right there. The Pippen to my Jordan. The Kelce to my Mahomes. The Brian to my Stewie. The Clyde to my Bonnie. So when it comes to him, know your place. Disrespecting him is disrespecting me.