Find the Clit

I’ve slept with a dozen men and nearly two dozen women in my life. What I can say is men are easy. You can bring the same moves to every man and almost certainly make them cum. Sure, when I ride them Dakota and Ryan have slightly different preferred angles they like, but whatever. My blow job technique is pretty universally considered one of the best blow jobs any guy has had. Maybe they’re lying to me to get more blowjobs but it certainly seems like it works pretty well for all of them.

Women have a lot different needs. Not only from men, but from each other. And I feel bad for men that get made fun of for being bad in bed because if you don’t even have the parts to play with yourself it’s gotta be super hard to apply this to someone else. This story will be quick and embarrassing but it absolutely must be included in my pride month series.

Very early on into sleeping with women I was with this beautiful Asian girl. She was exactly my type, which I didn’t know yet. I knew I found her attractive but I hadn’t realized I wasn’t particularly into white girls or that Asian girls specifically really get me going.

Anyway, I loved this time. I remember squirting so much when we were scissoring. It felt so good to me that I couldn’t imagine she wasn’t also enjoying it, but maybe she wasn’t because I never saw her again. Supposedly she got back with her ex boyfriend shortly after but I’m not entirely convinced she didn’t say that just to soften the blow to my feelings.

Why do I think that? Well you see… Before the glorious scissoring and everything else that I thought went well we started with just some rubbing. You know, as you do. Hadn’t even slipped my fingers inside her yet. Making out, kissing her neck, and grazing the outside of her panties. She stops kissing me and looks me dead in the eyes. “That’s not my clit.”

I stuttered from embarrassment. I knew that, obviously. You see, my clit is incredibly sensitive. I don’t like it to be rubbed directly, it’s almost… painful? Instead I like to be rubbed on my pubic bone right where the clit connects. If you didn’t know, the nerves of the clit actually extend upward pretty far. In fact I’m going to make the picture of this article a diagram of it. Anyway, the exposed part is too sensitive for me, but touching the more protected part is very pleasurable.

I embarrassingly tried to explain this to her, that I know where the clit is, I was just touching her how I liked to be touched and that I could do something different if she liked. This memory has haunted me for years though.

So women, if you’re reading this, please be gentle with any new male partners you have. They definitely need time to learn your body specifically. And don’t be afraid to give them direction. I’ve learned this is actually a big turn on to lots of men. I tell them what I want and they very enthusiastically comply. So go ahead and speak up in the bedroom.